CHAPTER 21
01. The relationship between parents and their
children settled abroad (say USA) rests on flimsy grounds.Effortless
communication thro advanced technology ,may give an ok feeling for some
years.The children may continue to conduct the usual religious rituals, without
knowing their import. More mechanical than with fervour as time passes by. (It
is another point if you ask as to how far these are performed in the right
manner in the home country itself ).In the long run,with changing
times,atrocious fashion trends,crossbreed marital relationships,and consequent
induction of alien babies into the fold ,the current relations will deteriorate
slowly but surely,dumping all the cherished values of yore from the country of
birth,into the backyard and beyond. And none can be blamed,except probably the
weighty dollar!.#NRI
02. Advice may enter thro one ear and leave thro the
other.But what hurts will be remembered.That is where punishment scores.The Govt
while publicising the do's and donts for covid containment should follow this
principle ruthlessly,unmindful of voter effect.#covid
03.If couples have identical views, they get on well.
If views parellel,they can still get on well, because parellel lines never
collide.But if clearly divergent views,the differences will increase in
geometrical proportion,till they fall apart. This pattern is
imported.#family
04. In recent days,there appears to be a slowdown in
covid incidence in Tamilnad and elsewhere. But then there is reportedly a second
surge after a pause,in some parts of the world.We too in Tamilnadu,have
elections in the offing.During election time,there will be overcrowding
everywhere,and Govt depts will be working under stress.Ministers will be under
conditions of extreme anxiety.What future holds for us,only Covid knows!#covid
05. "35 yrold woman in Haryana confined to loo for 1.5
years by husband..rescued by .."..a report in Times Of India of 15th
oct20.."Timely act saves 73 years old man kept in freezer.."(TOI of 14th)..Two
cases are reported... How many more such cases are there still,we dont know
.Probably,Govts must conduct surprise checks of toilets and freezers!#crime
06. Between Faith and Reason,usually Faith takes the
upper hand.Reason not supported by Faith,has tobe enforced by law.If there is a
tussle,it is a ticklish situation.Covid for example.Some may feel God will take
care of everything.Why elaborate caution? Govt in a fix.#covid
07. From TIMES VIEW in TOI of 22 oct,(reg covid):" An
imp part of electioneering is meeting prospective customers and holding mass
meetings.But in these extraordinary times,safety protocols are nonnegotiable,and
should take precedence".True. But who is to bell the cat.#COVID
08. Ordinary bombs are an incentive to war.Nuclear
bombs a deterrent.#war
09. The speakers who make others laugh, draw more
crowds than those who seek to make them think.The reasons are not far to
seek.#think
10. If you are silent for long, with eyes closed,you
may be thinking of something.If you are also not thinking,you may be sleeping.If
you are doing neither,you must be in a state of meditation.Blessed you are!#meditation
11. Nightfalls mean onset of silence.Daybreaks herald
break of silence. Silence is the nature of the night,but for travesty by
civlization,that can even beat the quietitude of holidays,with avenues for
explosive enjoyment.#silence
12. Humour works as a harmless medicine and effective
remedy ,for retaining emotional equanimity in the face of trying circumstances.
This way,it is a painless medicine and palatable too!#humour
13. Every man or woman,minus his/her
name,address,qualification,designation,post or power,or relationship with
another,is a nonentity. A baby is a nonentity ,to start with,produced by two
such nonentities.The whole world is full of such non entities and they
vehemently discuss everything without knowing,who or what they are! What more,it
looks as if this can't be avoided either!#humans
14. Our attitude to Capital Punishment needs
rethinking. Death penalty is not actually as cruel as it is made out.Half a
dozen executions in a week (not necesarily every week) will send a chill down
the spine of all criminals,and crimes will disappear in no time.#deathpenalty
15. Control and corruption are like siamese twins.All
the same,control becomes necessary to regulate human behaviour in public
interest. For instance, during the present pandemic, control is necessary, but
if corruptionthat arises, is not put down with an iron hand ,covid will surge to
unmanageable proportions.#covid
16. For an idea to crystallise,it needs a
supportive atmosphere and conducive circumstances.Quoting one in a million case
of evidence to the contrary,may offer solace to the heart,but not carry
conviction with the mind.#success
17. A seeker of truth is not a runner for
prize.Happiness is not his goal stand. Restlessness is not his choice. It is the
result of an instinct/urge,that cannot be diluted or dislodged with
alternatives.A peg or two will not do.#passion
18. Love for fashion recedes with time. Passion for
priciple hardens till the goal is reached..#passion
19..Ultimately,the cause for all friction can be
traced to either clash of interest,lack of understanding, unfounded fear,extreme
self interest,biological compulsion, inbuilt arrogance or subconscious
resistance resulting from previous experience,or inherited from birth. So called
negotiation between parties,will meet with some or all of these
hurdles.#negotiation
20.A judicious combination of caution (not tainted by
fear) and courage (circumscibed by reason) is the solid basis for sound
judgement.#caution
21.Affordability decides whether what you need is a
necessity or luxury. Otherwise there is no big difference.#luxury
22. Sometimes we are fed up with some people.
Sometimes with some situations.And that colors our reaction to the next person
or next occasion.This effect lasts till it fades with pasage of time,or change
of atmosphere.#mood
23.It is inconceivable that God would have appeared on
Earth in human form (avathar) born,brought up,married,got children, and lived
for some years, to teach humanity a few lessons in life #incarnation
24.Senior citizens are unfortunately not at home with
computers and internet.The latter can improve their quality of life
substantially with facilities for instant communication with friends/ relatives
,and alltime touch with worldnews,to relieve boredom of
loneliness.#oldage
25.Most people,not only the very rich,have sizable reserves in
finance,and if only they decide,they can jolly well indulge in the pleasant
luxury of frequent donations for deserving causes.But we indians lag behind
foreigners in this regard.#charity
26. As man is governed by fate ,probably nations also
have theirs.Our election results often prove this.Our politicians are standing
monuments.#fate
27.Every machine has to be condemned after a certain
period.This is true for man also but he is not prepared to accept it.He
valiantly fights till the end with the aid of skilled doctors and sophisticated
modern medical equipment till one day he loses the battle.#life
28.Corruption is the most important,and yet most
neglected subject in our social life.Over time it has gained informal acceptance
,and is treated like sunrise or sunset.Crores go down the drain.A powerful
movement for abolition of corruption,is the need of the hour.#corruption
29.Fines for minor crimes and gallows for major ones
are best. Jail term for crimes in between.But jail terms for long periods make
no sense. The convict would have lost his moorings and it is plain avoidable
misery to him and family,with no benefit to society whatsoever.#crime
30. If a person should strive for decades to know the
Truth about his existence,and even then,this knowledge acquired at last,cannot
be transmitted to others easily,that sounds like giving a man an appliance,and
not showing the usermanual.Sounds harsh.#God
31. If a person approaches you for help,and for good
reasons you are unable to help,will it be ok if you try to tell him ,how the
problem which he thinks he has,can be solved in no time?Will it look like
suggestion made in good faith ,or atrocious unwanted interference?#help
32.The same world looks differently to different
people or even to the same people at different times---for eg: seeing a film or
going for an operation,chatting with friends or facing a menacing creditor. Mood
changes like colours of a chameleon.#mood
33.Question hour implies freedom to question. No
guarantee of right , relevant or frank answers.#questions
34. Rhyme beats reason for certain.#rhyme
35. Television affects near vision. Engrossed in
episodes (number of episodes of many serials reaching triple digits)
awareness of what is more near and more real,is
adversely affected.#television
36.Old age is a blessing as long as you have neither
work nor problems. It changes colour as a curse,when body starts aching and
creaking,and there are chances of bones breaking on the slightest pretext.
Blessed are they who pass away at the right time.#oldage
37.A corollary of CARONA:When elders live with their
children,all of whom work at home or learn at home,they have neither the
pleasure of the company of children,nor the freedom of being alone.They can't
chat or listen to loud music for instance.#corona
38.When you complain against some major problems in
the society,one innocuous question you may face is "What the hell did you do
about this?".The subtle point is that if not a dog barks when you wail,your
spirits are down and dashed,and you get nowhere.#society·
39.The orderly occurrence of sunrise and sunset is
amazing.But the frequent visitation of natural calamities,is
bewildering,perplexing,mysterious and vexatious.All too complex for intellectual
analysis of Creator's intentions.And so the river flows.#universe
40.Religions do not show us the way for freedom from
suffering.Only they teach us how to face it or forget it.Any intoxicant can do
that!#religion
41.A man in constant realisation of the
uncertainities in life,will not be perturbed seriously by misfortunes when they
strike.#life
42.There are two striking diff between cinema and
TVserials.In serials there are plenty of brahmin villans.Also there are
more villes than villans.#TV
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(paras 16 to 42 posted on 30th Dec 2020)
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43. If anybody were to cut a man to pieces,roast him,
add salt and spice to taste, and eat him,that will sound very cruel.But we do
much the same to birds and animals. Maybe inevitable in real life ,as part of
food supply and demand chain,but it is cruel all the same.
#cruelty
44.Those who believe in God fall into two categories.
In the event of a catastrophe in personal life,some ask"Why this to me?"and are
satisfied with karma theory.Some others agitate"Why this,oh,God?".They mean to
anybody,and wonder how the bad karma ever occurred at all.#karma
45.There are some gifted people who can neither lead a
team ,nor follow a leader.Lone tillers!.#alone
46. You crave for public gaze and popularity when
anonymous,and once popular strive for anonymity
.#popular
47.Positive thinking is good,but the negative side of
positive thinking is that it blurs the view of the bad and the sad,and thus
blunts the verve to set wrong things right.#thinking
48.Some people resent/reject all advice on the ground
that they too have brains. This is not right.The correctness of any decision can
be affected by insufficient/ incorrect data,intentional misrepresentation,heat
of emotion,prejudice or other subconscious influence.#advice
49. Liberal sanction of loans by financial agencies is
like animal breeding. Often we breed only to kill.#loans
50. Peace of mind depends on what certificate you get
from your wife, and not what degree,medal,award or honour,some others may bestow on you.Find out where
you can get coaching.(That i dont know!).#peace
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paras 43 to 50 posted on 02 jan 2021
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